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希尼爾翻譯公司（m.shreekrishnajewellers.com）2015年11月30日了解到：為了知道快樂(lè)是什么樣子，為了知道如何真正地在現(xiàn)實(shí)中得到快樂(lè)，作家格雷琴?魯賓開(kāi)啟了一項(xiàng)為期一年的“快樂(lè)計(jì)劃”，這段經(jīng)歷讓她得到了一些充滿(mǎn)力量的啟示，其中包括了魯賓自己的實(shí)用“成年秘密”，這些是她在成長(zhǎng)為成年人的過(guò)程中領(lǐng)悟到的。When author Gretchen Rubin embarked on a yearlong "Happiness Project" to figure out what true happiness looks like and how to actually -- realistically -- achieve it, the experience led her to some powerful revelations. Among them are Rubin’s practical "secrets to adulthood," the principles she’s managed to grasp as she has become an adult.
　　
　　Even though some secrets on the list may not be particularly profound, each one becomes a true revelation once you finally figure it out for yourself. And together, these principles help move you toward a happier life.
　　雖然列出來(lái)的秘密中有些可能不是特別高深，但等到你自己領(lǐng)悟到的那一天，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)每一條都是實(shí)實(shí)在在的。
　　Though Rubin acknowledges that her list of secrets is evolving and, as she tells Oprah during an interview on "SuperSoul Sunday," others may have different things on their own list, there are still three major secrets that seem to be universal.
　　魯賓承認(rèn)，她的秘密列表還在不斷完善中（在“星期天超級(jí)靈魂”節(jié)目的采訪(fǎng)中她也是這么告訴奧普拉的），其他人自己的列表上也可能會(huì)有不一樣的東西，但仍然有三條主要的秘密似乎是大家共有的。
　　1. PEOPLE DON’T NOTICE YOUR MISTAKES AS MUCH AS YOU THINK THEY DO.
　　1. 人們沒(méi)有你想象中的那么關(guān)注你的錯(cuò)誤。
　　Everyone stumbles in life, some more than others. But regardless of the scale of a screw-up, many of us end up feeling as if there’s a massive spotlight on our missteps and flaws. It’s an incredibly common concern, but Rubin has learned that it’s mostly unfounded.
　　生活中每個(gè)人都會(huì)出錯(cuò)，有的人錯(cuò)得比別人都多。但每當(dāng)失足犯錯(cuò)，不管錯(cuò)誤是大是小，很多人都會(huì)覺(jué)得好像有盞聚光燈在照著他們。這種想法極其普遍，但魯賓已經(jīng)發(fā)現(xiàn)，在大部分情況下這么想是毫無(wú)根據(jù)的。
　　"We all feel like everyone’s paying attention to us," she says. "But they’re paying attention to a lot of other things."
　　“我們覺(jué)得每個(gè)人都在關(guān)注自己，”她說(shuō)?！暗鋵?shí)人們還有很多其他事情要關(guān)注呢?！?span id="fznv7bvjx7t" class="style43">
　　Even someone as well known as Oprah has come to realize this. "Every time somebody would say something about me that wasn’t true, I would get so upset," she admits. "It was Quincy Jones who said to me one time this exact law of adulthood. He said, ’Baby, if you knew how little people were thinking about you, you wouldn’t even be upset.’"
　　連奧普拉這樣的名人也意識(shí)到了這點(diǎn)?！耙郧懊看斡腥苏f(shuō)我的是非，我心理總會(huì)很不舒服，”她承認(rèn)道。“直到有一次昆西?瓊斯把這條成年定律告訴了我。他說(shuō)：‘寶貝，你要是知道別人是幾乎不怎么關(guān)注你的話(huà)，你壓根兒就不會(huì)覺(jué)得不舒服了?！?span id="fznv7bvjx7t" class="style43">
　　2. IT’S OK TO ASK FOR HELP.
　　2. 請(qǐng)求幫助是沒(méi)有問(wèn)題的。
　　You may understand this idea in principle, but welcoming it into your life as a practice is a real game-changer. And yet, asking for help is something that many adults -- including Rubin -- have a hard time doing. "I don’t understand why I struggle with this so much," she says. "It’s OK to ask for help. And usually when you ask for help, you get help. Things get easier when you ask for help."
　　你可能也大概明白這個(gè)道理，而真正在生活中貫徹它會(huì)讓一切都變得不一樣。但是，請(qǐng)求幫助對(duì)很多人（包括魯賓）來(lái)說(shuō)都不是件容易的事。 “我不明白為什么這對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)這么難，”她說(shuō)?！罢?qǐng)求幫助是沒(méi)有問(wèn)題的，而且通常只要你開(kāi)口，別人都會(huì)幫你的，這樣一切都會(huì)變得更輕松。”
　　3. HAPPINESS DOESN’T ALWAYS MAKE YOU FEEL HAPPY.
　　3. 快樂(lè)不會(huì)總是讓你感到快樂(lè)。
　　Strange, but true, Rubin says. As an example of this, she points to a story from a man who had been spending a lot of time at the bedside of his very sick father. "His father had been a terrible father, so they didn’t have a loving relationship. It was no fun to go to the hospital. And [the son] was saying, ’I don’t know why I’m doing this,’" Rubin says. "Well, he wanted to be a good son. So, in one way, it was making him happy because he was being a good son." This shift in your view of happiness is important to keep in mind. "People act like happiness is always going to send us skipping down the street. It doesn’t always work out that way," Rubin says.
　　魯賓說(shuō)，這很奇怪，但卻 是事實(shí)。她舉了一個(gè)人的例子，這個(gè)人花了很多時(shí)間陪伴臥病在床的父親?！八陌职质莻€(gè)很糟糕的爸爸，所以他們關(guān)系并不親密。去醫(yī)院一點(diǎn)兒都不好玩，兒子一 直在說(shuō)：‘我不知道自己為什么會(huì)去看他?！濒斮e說(shuō)?！八窍氘?dāng)個(gè)好兒子吧。從某種意義上來(lái)說(shuō)，他為自己當(dāng)了個(gè)好兒子而感到高興。”這種對(duì)快樂(lè)看法的改變 很重要，我們要牢記在心。“人們表現(xiàn)得好像快樂(lè)總會(huì)讓我們高興得蹦蹦跳跳，但事實(shí)并不總是那樣的，”魯賓說(shuō)。
　　This shift in your view of happiness is important to keep in mind. "People act like happiness is always going to send us skipping down the street. It doesn’t always work out that way," Rubin says.
　　魯賓說(shuō)，這很奇怪，但卻是事實(shí)。她舉了一個(gè)人的例子，這個(gè)人花了很多時(shí)間陪伴臥病在床的父親。“他的爸爸是個(gè)很糟糕的爸爸，所以他們關(guān)系并不親密。去醫(yī) 院一點(diǎn)兒都不好玩，兒子一直在說(shuō)：‘我不知道自己為什么會(huì)去看他?！濒斮e說(shuō)。“他是想當(dāng)個(gè)好兒子吧。從某種意義上來(lái)說(shuō)，他為自己當(dāng)了個(gè)好兒子而感到高 興?！?span id="fznv7bvjx7t" class="style43">
　來(lái)源:滬江網(wǎng)

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